Five Ways to Build Confidence

Over the past decade, my confidence level has went from: “ Meh, I’m alright” to “I suck.” to “Get it together, Cortney” to  “Girl, get up and act like you got it together” to “Alright CJ, I SEE YOU GIRL.” When I tell you life for me ain’t been no crystal stair?! (Langston Hughes reference – look it up lol) To say that my relationship … Continue reading Five Ways to Build Confidence

New Series: Life Soundtrack – August

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So when I turned 28 in July, I vowed to be more open about my passions in life. #2 after God – MUSIC.

I love to sing, write it, listen to it, dance to it when no one’s watching me and be healed by it. So, I decided to share ten songs each month that I have on repeat or whatever I’m listening to at the time I type these posts lol. Enjoy! Continue reading “New Series: Life Soundtrack – August”

Check on Your Strong Friends

How often have you heard that statement throughout the years? And then recycled when someone with a high celebrity profile commits suicide?

So many times I’ve stopped counting.

But how many of us actually check on our “strong friends”? The fact of the matter is, so many of us post that statement because we think of ourselves as the strong friend. We post it as a cry for help sometimes because the truth is, not many of us are checking on each other.

We simply go through life calling each other when we want to go out, cry on someone’s shoulders about our own problems, gossip about someone, or when we’re bored.

Not many people are actually having the heavy conversations – truly asking how someone is. Mentally, physically, financially, emotionally.

The real truth. We’re all strong. Continue reading “Check on Your Strong Friends”

You Should Go and Love Yourself

For as long as I can remember, I have disliked things about my body.

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When I was a kid, I hated the gap in my teeth. My big lips. The acne on my skin. My kid belly. Even my feet. I was so self-conscious of myself, constantly playing the comparison game with people around me and on television.

As I got older, it only got worse. I told myself no guy would ever like me. My hair wasn’t cute enough. My clothes weren’t on trend enough. I was a nerd. I was a Christian. I didn’t go out. I stuck close to the few friends I had and created a place of safety.

Sadly though, that place wasn’t safety. It was just safe. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with safe and having legit friends who support you. But, I was afraid to do more or be different. And that’s where I crippled myself. Continue reading “You Should Go and Love Yourself”

In SUMMER! *insert Frozen soundtrack*

Hey Fam!

So, last Thursday was the first day of summer. I was all excited about it until I stepped outside into 92 degree weather in humid North Florida. Seriously. Summer for us should have begun on April 21st, not June.

Nevertheless, I’m excited about this summer (and just the rest of this year period). 2018 has already taught me so much about life and how things can change in an instant and be wonderful and eye-opening. Continue reading “In SUMMER! *insert Frozen soundtrack*”

Goodbye, Kate Spade.

Like a lot of people, I was taken aback by the news of Kate Spade’s passing. I’ve never been one to keep up with designers. However, when I thought of Kate Spade, I imagined someone full of life and joy. A quirky woman who wore glasses and had tickle parties with her daughter. She very well could have been that person, I don’t know. But, I would have never imagined she would be someone who would want to take her life.

I began thinking. Kate Spade had everything so many of us work for in life. She had a family. She had a successful business and career. Friends. Money. Power. Influence. Yet, there was still something missing for her. And that reminded me that the things of this world don’t matter if you don’t truly have peace of mind and Love. Continue reading “Goodbye, Kate Spade.”

2018 Goal Update – Quarter One

Hey Lovelies!

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So yeah, this post has taken the whole month to get put out. *rolls eyes*

Again, I’m a walking example of what I talk about on this blog! Consistency is key! No matter what life throws at you and how sleepy or tired you are – MAKE TIME FOR YOUR PRIORITIES.

Moving on….

This is my 3-month goals update! (For my original goals post, go here) So April has rolled in and started out the second quarter of the year. It feels like I just posted my 2018 goals last week! Time is waiting for no one. But, it’s all the more reason why we should not “put off for tomorrow what we can do today.” Tomorrow will literally be five months from now, and you’ll look around like, “where’d the time go?”

So, here’s an update on my goals so far: Continue reading “2018 Goal Update – Quarter One”

Some Times Are Harder Than Others

Rough days. Overwhelm. Shootings. Illness. Frustrations. The state of the USA. Some times are just harder than others. When these times come, if feels like they last a bit longer than the good times, but they don’t. I’m reminded of my last blog post that emphasized there being a season for all things. This may be your season of triumph and victory. Days are good … Continue reading Some Times Are Harder Than Others