Goodbye 2019, Hello New Decade

Happy New Year Fam!

Happy New Year – photo from 2017

Welcome back. I hope you’ve enjoyed the entire holiday season – from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Day. This time off for me has been refreshing, informative, relaxing, and all the things in between. 

I know everyone has been on their “new year, same me” or “new year, new me” vibe, giving out all of the advice and well wishes. I could have joined in but it’s one thing I can’t stand – information overload. 

Now that the smoke has cleared a bit, I wanted to add my two cents. 

In 2009, I was a naive, college freshman (really junior because of dual enrollment but freshman just the same). I had just freshly gotten myself in a “situation” of a relationship that I thought would be fruitful, but time worked that one out. I didn’t know who I was, where to go, or what I was doing. I was afraid, clueless and out of my league. I thought I knew better but did not. 

The past ten years took me for a ride. It took me seven out of the ten years to free myself from that relationship (people still don’t know we were together lol), I got kicked out of school, got back into school, graduated with honors, gained well over 40 pounds, moved out of my parents house and back in, had three cars, two car accidents, switched jobs once, gained friends that have tremendously blessed me, grown to love myself, know who I am, gain the confidence to go after my dreams, gained a God-given mentor and circle of wise counselors, launched a youth conference for my church ministry and launched this blog (the most successful of three lol)!

There was a point in the past decade that I didn’t think I was going to make it. When I look back on that low point to where I am now, I can say that I am proud of myself. Though I have not accomplished all the things I hoped, I’m so far along than where I would have been had I stayed in that rut. I’m so glad I see myself as beautiful.

When I look at all the advice social media has been dishing out the past few weeks, the one thing I can offer to you is this – put God first. Do things at your own pace and in your own way. Everyone wants to HUSTLE and do the work NOW and GET. IT. DONE. 

Don’t get me wrong. We need to go ahead and go after things with consistency and a certain level of hunger. However, do it knowing that you don’t have to go the same way everyone else is going. You don’t have to be a master of Instagram and have “all the things” lined up. You don’t have to be an expert and start an online business. You don’t have to rush to keep up with the trends of this world. You don’t have to stay up all times of the night carrying on in things that don’t serve you.

I challenge US to die to the hustle in 2020 – especially the pointless kind. Embrace the true meaning of rest. Run with patience, diligence and consistency in the things that MATTER. Figure out what truly matters to you. When you have those things in mind, you’ll know what to spend the next ten years cultivating and growing. I’ve learned over the years that we can’t do all the things and expect them all to succeed. We have to pick the one or two things that are priority RIGHT NOW, and get to work on those things. 

I urge you to seek God for your answers before you solidify those goals this time (I know that was part of my problem lol). Don’t try to do EVERYTHING. Just start with the first thing. Create the daily habits that get you to that goal little by little and change your life.

Here’s to this next decade being the best of our lives.

Comment below and let me know one thing you’re letting go of this year and what good habit you’ll be replacing it with. Let’s chat!

Til next time,


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